Episode #206 || Resetting Your Journey || Veronica Dillard

Reading Time: 15 minutes
This week’s episode features, Mrs. Veronica Dillard.
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Veronica is a wife, mother, writer, author, teacher and so much more!
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Hailing from Louisiana by way of Houston Veronica shares with us how God changed her life by changing her people pleasing ways and choosing to follow Him instead.
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Tune in as she shares with us her story about how God pressed the reset button on her journey.

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Enjoy!
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A Special Note From Jaz

Queen Veronica! It was such a pleasure to hear your sweet voice and listen to your wisdom and journey to Christ. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and how God broke that stronghold off of you. I appreciate your transparency as well as sharing how your curiosity for the right thing, the light, for JESUS changed your life. Many of us, like myself, allowed curiosity to steer us in the wrong direction but I believe The was Holy Spirit leading you to Christ and that’s beautiful just like you! Your students are blessed to have a teacher and leader such as yourself. Keep pressing ma’am. God always works it out! I encourage you to keep writing as well. We need your voice! Thanks again!
God bless you!
Jaz💖👑
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What is the challenge you faced before God pressed the reset button?

“It was being a people pleaser. I grew up Catholic when I grew up into my Junior year of high school, my best friend at the time was involved in this organization. I noticed how she changed and she started talking about her friends and how they love the Lord.
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I’m like wait a minute, you’re my best friend, you can’t just be hangin’ out with a whole bunch of people all the time and not hangin’ out with me. I need to know who these people are. I need to meet these people!
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She invited me to this function, it was actually a church conference. It was nothing but young girls, young high school girls and college, maybe freshman/sophomore year in college. Just to see how FREE they were expressing their love for the Lord. It intrigued me because it was very different from my experience in regards to church.
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I wanted to know more about it. I got involved. From that point, the Lord just really started to reveal Himself to me. That was when I gave my life to Him.
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You know how once you give your life to the Lord things just kind of start in pieces. He starts revealing a little bit, who you are in pieces. He doesn’t give it all to you. We wouldn’t be able to handle it all. The more I learned about Him, the more I learned about myself.
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Then it came to a season when it was time for pruning and pruning hurts. God started to show some things to me that I needed to change about myself. A lot of the things I was okay with. I really loved the Lord and I didn’t mind changing. Then He showed me how much of a people pleaser I was. I was like Whoa, okay! That one right there, that was hard. I don’t know if we want to deal with that one right now. So I tucked it away. Just kind of brushed over it, glossed over it like “hey, we’ll get to it when we get to it.”
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So I’m a big fan of Priscilla Shirer, she’s like my mentor in my head. I was listening to a sermon by her. She was at a women’s conference and she was talking about Moses and Moses coming into who he was. She was talking about as women there are four different types of Pharaohs that we deal with in our lives. I don’t remember all of them. I only remember one, and of course, it was the Pharoh of people pleasing!
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Like really Lord? Really? Forreal?
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So that was when I feel like the Lord started to till the ground of my heart in regards to that area. I started to read up on people pleasing and the things that it causes you to do. I realized how much of that affected who I was, was defining who I was. I got to a point where I didn’t like it. I didn’t like living my life according to people, letting people dictate who I was and what I did.
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Slowly but surely I started to deal with it. So one day I was in my room by myself and I was reading in the Bible. I came across,
Matthew 10:37 [NLT]
If you love your father or mother more than you love me, you are not worthy of being mine;
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I was like WHOA! Hold up, because what the Lord showed me prior to me reading that was that my people pleasing stemmed from my relationship with my mother and how I really hung onto her every word. Even things of the Lord, where the Lord was calling me to do something, pressing me to do something, if she didn’t agree, I didn’t do it, because that’s how much her acceptance meant to me.
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I was like, “Man I’m not willing for there to be any sort of strife or negative energy or anything like that between me and my mom.” So was when I was in my room and I read that scripture, ” 37 If you love your father or mother more than me you are not worthy of being mine.” That totally shattered my world!
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It’s in the same area where He talks about [in] Matthew 10:38, “anyone who doesn’t pick up their cross and follow me you’re not worthy of being mine.” In that moment He revealed to me that a part of baring my cross was allowing my relationship with my mom to in a way be sacrificed so that I could become closer to Him.
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I can honestly say that in that moment, that’s when God started to reset my journey.
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In that moment I started to get a glimpse of what getting freedom from people pleasing really looked like. It stems from my relationship with my mom. It’s been a constant journey of mine because people pleasing has been something I’ve dealt with off and on for years. In that moment, God truly made me aware of just how much that affected who I was and what He was calling me to do.
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That was the moment when He pushed the reset button in my life.”
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What obstacle did you overcome/testimony? What was the pivotal moment in your life thus far that changed everything?

“From that moment God really just kind of started to speak to me about my purpose, even looking back now it just makes so much sense. There’s no way I could be doing what I’m doing now and even the things that He’s called me to do if I still battled. That really struck, because like I said, I deal with people pleasing sometimes even now but nothing like what I used to. But there could be no way  I could be doing what I’m doing now if I still struggled with people pleasing.
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The Lord really started to show me just how much of an encourager I was, just how much influence I had with people. If you think about someone who has been given influence and they are people pleasers, that could be extremely dangerous. That could be extremely dangerous to have influence and to be a people pleaser because you start using your influence for the wrong reason. Your influence starts to become your idol because you realize this is what allows people to see you how they see you.
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So after that, like I said, God started to reveal who I am as an encourager and He started speaking to me about purpose, things that He desires for me to do. Things that He’s calling me to do. Like I said, I have a blog, Blessed Is She.
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It helped me to see why God had to deliver me from people pleasing.
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It really amazes me to see how God delivered me from that so that I could be in the position that I’m in now.
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Again, just going back to my mom. I told you I grew up Catholic. Eventually, I got to the place where I felt like the Catholic church wasn’t for me. I needed more. I wanted more. I wanted to be able to be FREE in worshiping God. If I wanted to raise my hands, clap my hands I didn’t want to be looked at crazy. I WANTED TO BE FREE!
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I wanted to join a non-denominational church. I really felt like God was tugging at my heart to do that because when I would go visit, you know how sometimes when you’re visiting somewhere you’re trying to figure out, Lord is this the place for me? Then you go and you visit a few Sunday’s and every single time it’s like the Pastor’s talking directly to you? That’s how it was for me.
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It pulled at my heartstrings. It got to a point where I came to a crossroads. Being from Louisiana, Catholicism runs deep in the veins of Louisiana. Also, families define their identity in Catholicism. My family is the type of family where if you left the Catholic church, you were abandoning, disowning, rejecting your family.
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I battled with that decision for so long. Man, not only am I going to have to hear what my mom has to say every Sunday but all of my family is in Louisiana, and I’m going to have to hear it from my aunts, my uncles, everybody and I just don’t want to have to deal with it.
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I don’t know if it’s worth dealing with that. I had to make a decision. Am I going to what I need to do to make sure that I am growing closer to the Lord or am I going to do what everybody else wants me to do?
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Finally, I decided to make the jump and talk to my mom and tell her, “Hey, I want to join this church.” It was not a very pleasant conversation. It did not go over well. The very next time I went to Louisiana I had to deal with the same conversation from my grandma and my aunt, but even with all of that going on, God allowed me to still experience peace. The scripture in Isaiah,
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Isaiah 26:3 [NKJV]
“You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.”
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The Lord really did that for me, because my situation was not peaceful. Everytime that I woke up and went to church on Sunday and did not go with my mom it was an argument. It was I’m not going to talk to you for the rest of the day. It was Veronica, why are you doing this? But I had peace and like I said it wasn’t a peaceful situation but the Lord allowed me to experience that.
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That was one of the moments where I can really remember where I had to really choose between being a people pleaser and following the Lord.
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2 Corinthians 3:17 [AMP]
“17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty [emancipation from bondage, true freedom].”
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Even if, everything is going to work out for my good.”
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How has that shown you the path God has prepared for your life? Steps along your journey.

“God is so awesome! I feel like every day He just give me those sweet nudges to draw closer to Him.
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Whether it’s a conversation that I’m having with someone or it’s a song that I’m listening to or if  I just kind of feel Him stirring in my heart, it’s just a constant nudge, a constant reminder, a constant push that He truly does desire to be intimate with me every day.
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Paul talks about pray without ceasing. That’s kind of the season I’m in right now, learning how to do that. Because when we think about prayer, we’re like okay, let me go in my closet and pray for about 10, 30, 45 minutes to an hour and I can check that off my list. God is teaching me what it looks like to pray without ceasing.
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For me it’s having Him on my mind all day, throughout the day, making decisions with Him in mind. Anytime that something happens small or big, just making sure I’m giving Him the glory, I’m giving Him to honor for doing that for making it happen in my life.
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Really just learning what that looks like to really pray without ceasing. My husband and I, we lead a small group in at house every Tuesday night, we talk about how crazy it is that God sent Jesus to do all that HE did and Jesus had full power, full authority, full ability to put a stop to it. If He wanted to but He did it for the sake of having a relationship with us. He wanted to be in a relationship with us that badly, so badly, that He was willingly beaten. He willingly died. He willingly went through all that He did, the mockery and spitting on Him. He did it willingly so that He could have a relationship with us.
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In this season of my life just really learning to walk in that at all times, not just when I’m sitting down reading the Bible, not just when I decide to pray at this time on this day for this long. Just really learning how to pray without ceasing.
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To be with God, in God, at all times!
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Can you share your favorite scripture?

Luke 1:45 [NKJV]
45 “Blessed is she who believed, for there will be a fulfillment of those things which were told her from the Lord.”
That scripture holds a very near and dear place in my heart. It has brought me through many different things because like I said, the Lord shows you glimpse and piece of who you’re going to be and what you’re going to be in life, what He’s calling you to, even things that He’s desiring from you. Sometimes it takes a little faith because things don’t always look like what He said they were going to be like. So that scripture has really held me in a place of faith.
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When I had a crisis of belief, am I gonna choose what the world is saying my reality is or am I gonna choose what God has shown me my reality is?
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I’ve held on to that scripture.
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Because He’s faithful, “God is not a man that He should lie, nor the son of man that He should repent.” If He’s spoken somethin’ to us He is sure to fulfill it. “He watches over His word to fulfill it.”
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God is always working and waiting and wanting to perform His word for us. It takes faith on our end.
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Trusting His character, that He is who He says He is and He will do what He says He will do.
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What do you do daily to let your light shine?

“I am a fifth and sixth-grade teacher. At my school I also work with the campus ministry department, with that I get to work with middle school through high school students.
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What I enjoy most about my job is what I do every day. Those kids come to school most of them carrying so much. So many of them go through a lot, they deal with a lot, they carry a lot, many of them have to be adults at the age of ten. .
My job what I really believe God has charged me to do is to really show His love and His light and kind of help them forget about all that for the forty-five minutes that I have them in my class. I pray over my room. I pray over my desks. I want whether you’re a high school student or a middle school student, you encounter the love of Christ. You encounter the freedom of Christ. You get to forget for however long you’re sitting in there about all of your worries, all of your troubles, whatever it is.
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I feel like I have been charged to be the hands and feet of Jesus and to just express that love to them.
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I also lead a small group at my church. Allowing our home to be a place where transformation happens.
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Name (3) things that you would tell your younger self?

  1. Be patient. Things will come when they come.
  2. Girl, you got it goin’ on! You are beautiful!
  3. Trust God. He knows what He is doing!

Why do you love you some you? What makes you extraordinary?

“It’s not my hair, it’s not my eyes, it’s not my smile. Is my freedom in Christ. Literally, without it, I would be in bondage. There’s a lot that I would struggle with. Because of that freedom in Christ, I’m really able to be who I am and to embrace all that I am. Even with the shortcomings, I have now, the things that I deal with now, that things that I battle now. It’s because of my freedom in Christ that I’m able to embrace who I am.”
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Jonah Study by Priscilla Shirer
Fervent by Priscilla Shirer
The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
Sun Stand Still by Steven Furtick
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10 Seconds of Motivation

“Wherever you are in your journey just continue to trust God to be God in your life. He is faithful. He is amazing. He is God. Just trust God to be God!”
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Contact Info

Find out all about Veronica below::
Twitter:: _vrdillard
Email:: veronica@hrvstmedia.com

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